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Despite the looming finals and my impending doom(because i've been such a bad ass by not studying), i really want to share my thoughts about this movie i watched.

Architecture 101
It's a korean film, genre: romance. It's exquisite, really really well done. My favorite type of romance, innocence wrapped up with reality. Okay, basically it's about a pair of lovers way back in their 20s, they fell in love, but life gets in the way and they didn't manage to get together despite loving each other and fast forward say 15 years later, she tracked him down and asked him to fulfill a promise he made 15 years ago. i know you must be thinking, yo jocelyn what's the promise. i won't spoil it for you so go watch it! The most interesting part is the ending really. They didn't get together, there i said it, shoot me now. But seriously, they didn't get together and i can only fully appreciate the ending after reading the director's commentary, which always seems to provide all the answers the film fails to.

"The two main characters learn to understand each other through their memories. They need to figure out 'what do they need' and 'what do they need to leave each other'. A good structure needs time to build. Even with people, you have to invest time to build the relationship and make it stronger."
The ending is real and realistic. Time apart has changed both of them in different ways, she is no longer who he loved and he is no longer the boy she was in love with. They can't be together again because reality would drive them apart again. I like how the movie is about seeing things as they are, without the touch of fairy tale, something pure and natural, like what our life should be like. Yes, granted we might not have the sweep your feet off the ground moments where the prince charming would put everything aside just to be with you, instead, it's about letting go, realizing that things are not the way it was before and leaving the memory as it is, untainted and in the past.

First love are perfect because it was your first, when you were pure, naive, hopeful, innocent. Where you believed that love lives outside the boundary of reality, that things really would work out, that things would go the way you want, the way you expect it to. That's why it doesn't i guess, because it's your first. And everything else can only get better, that the last might just be the answer or maybe your third might mean the most, or your fifth might just be the one who got away. Possibilities, endless possibilities. The endless possibilities might just be what i live for.

Tonight, i think i'm the right mixture of sadness and contentment and maybe a tinge of nostalgia. It's not about losing your first love to possibly the worst guy on earth or losing the most important one, it's about learning from the loss and picking yourself up and walking in a different direction this time. And maybe all the lessons learnt might just lead you to the one.