What matters to me

i've quite a number of thoughts swimming around in my head recently.
And one of it is the importance of beauty or the importance of being pretty. i've met just too many people who place an emphasis on being pretty and it makes me uncomfortable. i think what we should do is embrace what we are given, change what we can and just be comfortable, happy and confident. it is so unnecessary to be the prettiest, it's not even worth anything much unless you are making money out of it or something. why does it matter if someone else is pretty? it is essentially non of your business and should not in any way affect what you think of yourself. there are probably gaziliion girls out there and there is no way to be the prettiest so how does it matter? it especially annoys me when people judges others based on looks. there is no real need to compare how others look like in comparison to you and it doesn't matter if she's pretty because her being ugly or pretty will never change how pretty you are. somehow to me, people who place an emphasis on looks seems to be the ones who are the most insecured and concerned about their looks, if not why bother looking or determining if someone else is pretty enough? there is so many things in this world and looks is probably just a drop of water in the ocean of things to be concerned about. Give me a smart, kindhearted, spirited, honest, knowledgeable, well read, inspired, ambitious girl any day over a pretty one.
It's not just the cliche "it is what inside counts" but rather the package. i watched a movie recently and i learnt how to determine a person based on his or her whole rather than just a part of the person. just like how the looks is only a part of someone and if we were to only concentrate on the looks alone, we would see the part as a whole and shortchange or over estimate what someone could be like. it's not only just the character, it's the way they treat others. the way they approach difficulties, their willingness to help others in need, their heart for the disadvantaged and most importantly the way they act around everyone and not just their friends or love ones.
i've never really been an observant person but sometimes i would just look at strangers around me and discover something in them that makes me in awe or it makes me want to know them better. just the other day i saw a guy who was sweaty and tired after his run and he was buying some groceries home and he tried to pay with his card but he can't because they don't accept ez link card payment or something and he had to leave without his groceries. the cashier was giving him attitude and being quite uncooperative, a normal tempered person might get fustrated or even irritated but he showed no sign of annoyance and even when a salesman approach him to apply for a credit card he patiently listened to the guy before rejecting him kindly. it might have been a good day for him or he has the patience of a saint but at that moment i was so impressed by his mild temper. i mean i do have a bad temper which i can't keep in check most of the times and people like him never fail to amaze me. Likewise, i feel drawn to know more about him because he has this certain quality that is attractive and it is because of his character and not his looks. i think this is the way to truly gain respect, recognition and love. which is why looks just barely scratch the surface of people we need in our lives. we seek like minded souls and friends who are good hearted and embody characters which we admire and need. i feel that what we should look for when we make friends or find someone to fall in love with, should be someone whose whole is more than every part of him or her, someone who shines from within and is so iridescent that no one else can compare.
i'm not saying i don't look at others and judge them based on their looks forefront, but i feel that there is less of a need to emphasize on them and learn to see the bigger picture. But this is just my opinion though i feel others should consider looking at the entire scenery and not just a flower or a tree, but the entire scenery and hopefully find something spectacular in the process


A painting is more then the sum of it's parts. A cow by itself is just A cow. A meadow by itself is just grass, flowers. And the sun picking through the trees, is just a beam of light. But you put them all together and it can be magic.

-Flipped (Movie)