Getting attached doesn’t hurt, detaching is what hurts us. Learn to detach. Be like the Sun, not too far and not too close. Be like a hand in water: allow yourself to experience your feelings as fully as water experiences the hand, then let go completely as water. The water will leave little marks on the hand, just as you will leave little marks on the water. Learn to detach. The Buddhists say, “Don’t cling to things because everything is impermanent.” But by detachment, I mean to allow yourself to experience the joy and the pain. Go all the way through with them, don’t be afraid of the pain or the grief. Don’t be afraid of the vulnerability that loving someone entails. Now you know what pain is, what love is, what grief is, and now you can say, “All right, I know this feeling. It is pain. I don’t have to let it control me, I need to step away from it.”
There is nothing I can say that will lessen the pain. You must let yourself feel the grief but don’t be afraid, don’t let it control you. It will all get better. For every person that leaves our life, someone better comes in.
And remember what Ovid said, “Be patient and tough; one day this pain will be useful to you.”
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